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Doris Füllgrabe's avatar

❤️ Lovely reminder that like adulting, personing can be a hard and lonely experience when we temporarily forget how magic we are. ✨ You are so magic, Caroline, the way you weave stories from your consciousness and make them turn into feelings of comfort, belonging, and joy in others. 🤗

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Charlotte | Baby Brain's avatar

Great tips, Caroline. I became disillusioned with social media a few years back, and deleted almost all of my profiles. Instagram stayed. Every so often my husband will ask if I'm 'doom scrolling' when on it, but I only follow accounts that make me happy so can genuinely say that I am not.

As for this point: “How do they keep it together? How do they get it all done?” When I’ve been fortunate enough to glimpse the answer, it’s been some version of: They don’t. They aren’t. They have help (or other resources). Always, there is some angle you cannot see.

I find myself CONSTANTLY being asked how I "do it!" (Always with the exclamation mark.) "Super mum" is thrown at me quite often as well as more general awe, because people watch me from the outside taking my three little ones for strolls in the park and having snacks to hand etc and think I'm absolutely bossing it. What they don't see is that the house is left in a mess to get us out the door, the snacks were purchased on the way to curb a toddler meltdown when I went to the shop to buy drinks I'd forgotten to pack, I often feel horribly guilty for not being present/patient/organised enough and for at least a year - no word of a lie - I have been wearing my contact lenses in the wrong eyes (and wasting money in the process, as one of them is designed to correct an issue I only have in one eye, so costs extra.)

Noone has is all together. We are all apes in active wear. The best we can do is try to enjoy the ride before it stops.

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