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Katrin's avatar

Thank you for including the single people in a piece about love. It makes me feel seen ❤️

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Kenneth Mills's avatar

I really like the idea of "standing guard over the solitude of the other" as part of love, quoted in 8.....

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Heather's avatar

Me too! And I take it seriously when it comes to just being up front that my adhd/ introverted/ writer husband doesn’t need to go to all our family events ( we live in the same town) or that he can show up late so he’s not there for as long. I make it a point to leave the house with our girls each Sunday and go to my parents so he can decompress - he really really needs his alone time.

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Alex Dobrenko`'s avatar

based on that photo alone I love Teddy

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Caroline Cala Donofrio's avatar

hahaha I figured you meant the first one. Also! You liked it even before he did. This has never happened before. YOU WIN THE PRIZE!*

*Teddy says the prize is you can proofread from now on.

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Alex Dobrenko`'s avatar

oh i wrote this after the first one now I realize there are more I just meant the first one its a funny photo

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Mo Issa's avatar

Love your posts on Tarot! Have you thought of compiling a book about how you interpret each card. I'd buy the book right away.

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Joyce Ragard's avatar

Wow! I have never heard that Nisargadatta Maharaj quote and I need to write it down and tape it to my wall ASAP (!!!) I enjoyed learning about Teddy and reading this list! :) Love the pics!

The two pieces of advice I give to my newly wed/newly moving-in-together friends: "Always remember that you're annoying too." and "Never criticize a person doing a chore. They are doing the chore. They get to do it however they want." :)

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Samantha Chesler's avatar

I have been married 28 years (yes, I married young) and that is a life! You are wise and I am happy for you that you have Teddy and these 10 lessons. I am also bad at #9 but I do always try and remember that I am married to a whole entire person with his own whole entire life inside his head. It is not all about me.

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Lindsay's avatar

Love all of this-- thank you as always for your insights, wisdom, and sharing!

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Jenny's avatar

This took me right back to my 20’s - sitting on the N train, pouring over my Susan Miller horoscope every month on the way work. Ooofff. What a great piece! Thank you for sharing.

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Allison P's avatar

Just "celebrated" my 10yr wedding anniversary with fast food and a promise to book a vacation (sans kids!) in the Fall, and your list resonated deeply in this tough season of life for me. Cheering you and Teddy on - not to a destination event, but for a wonderful journey together!

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Sheila's avatar

Just. Yes.

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Shire Jansen's avatar

Brilliant, loved every bit of this especially the contrast in pics, both were adorable for different reasons and the cool lizard brooch! Would add to #9 'listen in kind' and take action if your words are falling on deaf ears. 💚

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Lying liar!! My new favorite phrase. Great piece. Love the first photo that Teddy sent. I like him already!

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Caroline Cala Donofrio's avatar

Thank you ❤️

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Israel Sanchez's avatar

There’s a lot of wisdom here, Caroline. Great piece.

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Caroline Cala Donofrio's avatar

Thank you so much, Israel

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Alex de Lara's avatar

Hi, Teddy! Loved this one (and I’m also bad at #9) 🫣

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Ben Monaco's avatar

#9 is so important. Bad at it myself, but it’s always something to work on

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Ashley Munday's avatar

Thanks for writing this! I needed to hear it. Also, why is #9 so difficult to do?

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