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Tara's avatar

Oh Caroline, my heart breaks for you and your loved ones. I wrote here after my Dad passed suddenly in September of 2022 and you and your community were so kind. This might sound like a platitude but it comes from my heart: She will always be with you. She is echoing into the universe forever. Your love for her is immortal, as is her love for you. That does not erase the pain you are feeling right now, of course, but there is power and sparks of joy amidst this terrible grief that will grow brighter in time. Sending you love and kindness.

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Jackie's avatar

Caroline, I’m am so sorry for your loss. I’ve recently (over a year and a half ago, feels like yesterday) lost my Dad. I ditto Tara^^^^^. She will always be with you. Not always the best words to hear with a loss so profound.

Days become lighter as does the heartache but it lives on. I find solace in his presence. We are not alone.

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Lauren Hight's avatar

Caroline, losing a mother is brutal. It gets at your being, sense of self, and identity, regardless of the relationship's health. I'm so sorry you must face this loss and wade through this kind of grief. I hope in these coming weeks you care for yourself, accept help from others, and be fully with ones you love as you grieve. My mother died 15 months ago at age 65. While your grief is uniquely yours, know that you're not alone. It's the shittiest fucking club to join, but at least it's not a club of one.

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Katrin's avatar

„The shittiest fucking club to join“ - as a member of this club, this is so true. I wasn‘t aware it really feels like a club until my mom died this year, aged 72, but it really is. There‘s a community, and the people in it are so kind, supportive, and brave. Nothing soothed my pain more than the willingness to share and the vulnerability I encountered, unexpectedly, from other moms who had also lost a parent.

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Sally Jupe's avatar

So well said Lauren.

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Gena W.'s avatar

Oh Caroline. I know I only digitally know you, but from your words, I do hope that if there’s an afterlife (I like to imagine there is), that your mom and Mia found each other. Sending so much love during this time and holding space for you.

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Patryce's avatar

So sorry for your loss Caroline, sending love to you and your family. May her memory be a blessing 🤍

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LC.'s avatar

I'm so sorry, Caroline. I can't imagine how painful this moment is for you. Please know us readers will hold space for your grief and are only sending love to you and your family. Be well.

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Maria's avatar

So sorry for your tremendous loss. It’s not easy now, take comfort and know that you will be okay. She will forever be your guardian angel.💕

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Virginia Fay Pack's avatar

Just sending you such a giant hug. This SUCKS and is so so so unfair and I hate that this is happening to you.

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Ceridwen Box's avatar

My love to you and I’m so sorry to hear this. What a beautiful poem to share. Be gentle and kind toward yourself. I found when my mum died it was a quiet time for myself and writing became the most precious thing even though no one but me read it. This is a hard and also loving time. Sending you care x

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Malcolm J McKinney's avatar

Sorry for your loss.

Only Love Prevails.

I can’t bring them back again

Those moments I hold fast in memory

Dear ones dancing in my dreams

Still reaching out to me

When Spring has come and gone again

And brilliant Summer pales

And Fall sets sail in frosty winds

Only love prevails

No, I can’t change the flow of time

Tho sometimes I’ve wished that I could

But my heart shall bind up all loose ends

And keep them mine for good

So let us recall some old songs

And sing them out around the fire

And hail once more our loved ones before

The hour that we retire

When Spring has come and gone again

And brilliant Summer pales

And Fall sets sail in frosty winds

Only love prevails

Malcolm McKinney 2016

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Rebecca's avatar

Oh Caroline, what a heartbreaking time for you. Sending love and support for you and your family.

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Baoying's avatar

Sending you all our warmest love to you and your family. Please know that you are not alone and that to take as much time as you need to bask in her memories.

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anna's avatar

my sincerest condolences to your family and all my love to you; may your mother rest in peace 🖤🖤🖤

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Lizzy Co (she/they)'s avatar

Losing a parent is very hard and maddeningly nonlinear in its recovery timeline. I’m picking my way through the same rocks myself right now. Sending you comfort and normalcy, however it can be found.

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Ivan De Smet's avatar

Sorry for your loss, Caroline. I hope you can, with time, remember the good times you had together... thanks for the poem you shared. It means a lot!

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Kathlyn's avatar

Agreed on the poem (and everything else you said) - it’s beautiful and haunting and so right

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Lisa Richards's avatar

I am so sorry for your loss Caroline. I can not imagine the grief you are going through. Sending you healing energy, love, and space to feel whatever you need to feel.

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Holly Ramey's avatar

I am so sorry to hear of your loss Caroline. Sending you love and courage 🤍

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